8 Signs That You’re Ready To Take On The Marriage Life
So you want to
get married, huh? You’re probably getting impatient with life and you just
can’t wait to get to the next level already. But hold your horses. What you may
think of as a dream may turn out to be a complete and total nightmare. Marriage
is not all about sweet nothings and fluttering butterflies. It’s a lifelong
commitment that requires absolute trust and understanding. If you just want to
tie the knot just for the heck of it, then you really shouldn’t. A failed
marriage is costly – not to mention traumatizing!
When you do get
married, make sure that your heart, soul and body is ready for it. If even one
is lacking, then there’s a pretty good chance that your relationship is doomed
to fail. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not against marriage – no, not at all.
However, I am against people who are merely tranced by their impractical
idealization of marriage. The union of two hearts is a very beautiful thing,
especially when it has arrived to that point because two people have really
made an effort to come to the decision.
prepared a short checklist of things that I believe are necessary to every
successful marriage. If you’re adamant about making your wedding plans come
into fruition very soon, then I really suggest going through this list and ticking
off boxes that you believe applies to your relationship. Passing score is 60%
which means that as long as you’ve experienced 6 out of the 10 signs, you’re
good to marry. But don’t be lying to yourself now, okay? Only you can judge
your score, after all.
Anyway, here are
the top 10 signs that you are ready to get hitched:
- You Can See This Man Existing In Your Future
Real talk: Never
ever marry a guy you can’t see living in your future. This is a very simple
method. Close your eyes and just visualize. The man who’s marriage material
will easily slip into your imagination. It’s not hard to picture him playing
with your future kids, making breakfast tacos, marathoning Netflix movies with
you on a Sunday, and maybe even help you do laundry on slow mornings.
And here’s the
most important part – you don’t feel bad about him being in your future at all.
If anything, it makes you happy just dreaming of a future life with him.
- You Can Be Alone But Not Lonely
boyfriend goes away and you turn out to be this needy 10-year old girl who
needs to be carried like a princess, don’t get married yet. Sure, when you tie
the knot with someone, it basically means you’ll be spending forever with them.
But that doesn’t guarantee that you will be together everyday, you know. You
have to learn how to enjoy your own company. You have to love being independent
so that when the time comes that your would-be-husband needs to go somewhere
for work or business, you won’t be left at home alone – overthinking.
not foster dependency. It should be the union of two independent individuals
who simply choose to be together because they love each other.
- Him Being There Inspires You To Do Better
Your partner should be someone who brings out the best in you – not make you
lazy and overly dependent. Having a partner that can do it all is great. It’s
also great that he or she can provide for the family. However, if it means
losing yourself, morphing your own dreams to theirs, and basically diluting
your own aspirations so that it would meet their life plans, then you might
want to rethink about getting married.
- You Don’t Second Guess Yourself
This is plain
enough: You know you want to get married because you can’t even bear the
thought of your partner being anyone else. The man in front of you is the one
and that’s it.
- You Can Sleep Comfortably At Night Even If He Hasn’t Come
Trust is a very
important factor in marriage. Actually, it is what makes marriage meaningful.
More than romance, you form a strong bond with this person – an unbreakable
force that secures your relationship. Now, if you can’t even last two seconds
without thinking about the “worst” that could happen while he’s away then
surely, you are not ready for this kind of lifelong commitment.
In order to be
able to overcome the usual strains of married life, you have to be able to
trust your partner fully. This means not doubting him even he has to work long
nights and not pressing him for faults you have no evidence of.
- You Can Support Each Other’s Goals
Before you are a
couple, you are both individuals. Both of you have personal goals and
aspirations that you would want to works towards and being joined together in
matrimony should not be the end of it. Sure, you will start having plans that
will include each other. However, that doesn’t mean you have to say goodbye to
your own dreams.
- You Respect Each Other’s Spaces
Yep, this is
something that should really be observed. You see, people can absolutely love
and adore you but still want to be away from you – even just for a while. We
all need our personal space, even when we are married. You can’t tie any one
person to your hip. In the same way, they can’t tie you. You have to be
respectful of personal spheres recognizing a person’s right to it will
definitely help you enjoy a smoother relationship with your husband in the
- You Can Apologize Even When You Don’t Understand What You Did
And lastly, rule
number 8: Just apologize. What do you mean you can’t? Apologizing should be as
easy as breathing when you’re with someone you truly care about. This is
because the thought of losing them is scarier than the thought of admitting
defeat. You don’t have to win every single argument, you know (even when you’re
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